Hiding Your Geeky Interests
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Unfortunately, girls today can get turned off by some of our geeky interests. Some of these interests included, but are not limited: beating Guitar Hero on expert, salsa dancing, listening to Beethoven, and being an internet geek.
But what about ’showing your true personality’?
I do recommend showing your true personality with a girl. If you are a Guitar Hero God, eventually she should know about it. However, don’t let that be the first thing she knows about you once you get to meet her. Show her that although you are a bit on the geeky side, you can be normal most of the time. First impressions are extremely important.
Eventually, if you happen to start dating the girl, she should at least attempt to familiarize herself with your personal interests. However, this goes both ways. If she likes watching Grey’s Anatomy, chances are you should watch Grey’s Anatomy with her, or at least by yourself so that you can discuss it tomorrow. After all, relationships have to go both ways. You can’t expect her to play Guitar Hero with you if you refuse to do some of the things she is interested in.
Bottom line is, make sure she gets to know the normal side of you before you start telling her about your nerdy interests. And if they are really nerdy, like you are a Pokemon fan or something, the best advice is to just never, ever let her know. If you have interests like this, you’ll probably have to just settle for a Pokegirl.
Granted, there are some girls who will have the same geeky interests as you, but most of the time you will find yourself hiding these hobbies of yours until you know that she’ll still accept you once she learns about your other side. Don’t worry though, because before you know it she might be beating you in Guitar Hero.
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Yah I know what you mean. I got married and my wife plays my gaming systems more than I do, and im a IT administrator.
You need ot be open in a relationship about everything or it will fail. Women like it when you tell them embarrasing things about yourself, since it portrays trust.
Many women are turned off when you shy away from telling them your more intimate details.
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Oli: Eventually, yes it is wise to let her know, but don’t let these interests be your first impression on her.
My girlfriend and I have been together for over 5 years (the 31st of this month will make 6). Sometimes I wonder if she gets upset because of the amount of time spent on the PC, but it’s not like I’m looking at porn or wasting time. 80-90% of that time is spent trying to make money and establish a residual income so we can really relax when we’re in our 30’s+.
Now if my time was spent playing WoW or guitar hero or something else that’s NOT productive, then there’s cause for concern.
Hmm..I disagree with this post entirely. I am most attracted to guys who are not at all ashamed of their geeky interests. In fact, I love geeky guys. It’s great to have a guy who is on the same geekiness and intellectual level, and I think it’s adorable when they show off how geeky they are.
Kate - The amount of girls that are ‘geeky’ and desirable at the same time constitute about 2% of the female race. Do you fall into that 2%?
Geeks make better boyfriends anyway, it’s a proven fact.
The first thing I knew about my boyfriend was that he was a complete geek. And it made him the most attractive guy in the room. Geekiness is hot. And not hiding it shows a whole lot of confidence and personality.
Admin- Kate didn’t actually say that she was geeky, she said she liked geeky guys. Big difference. A girl doesn’t have to be a geek to like a geeky guy.
Also, I think that statistic is a little pessimistic. I definitely qualify as a geek(currently getting a degree in Multimedia and Design meaning that I’m qualified to work as an object modeler for a game design studio), and judging by the catcalls I get walking down the street I’m also pretty damn hot. It’s just hard to find us because most girls with geek interests are taught that those interests aren’t ‘kosher’. Alot of girls, especially the attractive high school variety, are ostracized/mocked for their interest in computers, video games, and really, any geeky past time.
Whenever you find a girl that actually likes games, encourage that by telling her how much sexier that makes her.
Not being yourself is a guaranteed relationship killer, I agree that it doesn’t necessarily need to be the first thing they know about you. But you shouldn’t hide it from them.