eGirlHelp reader Steve has asked the following question:
A common “turn down” girls use is “I have a boyfriend.” How can you tell when it’s true and when it’s just their way of turning you down? What’s the best way to respond to this, and is there any way to safely give them your number in case something happens with the current boyfriend?
This is actually a difficult question. In fact, if a girl tells you that she has a boyfriend, I’m going to tell you right now that your chances of making something happen are about 1%. Think about it - if she DID have a boyfriend but still wanted to see what you were like, would she tell you? Unfortunately, you’ll just have to move on if a girl tells you that she is with someone.
And, the whole phone number thing? Well, you COULD give it to her, but I highly doubt she’d even put it in her phone book. If I were you I’d hold off on giving her the phone number, because it might make you look desperate. And desperate guys are guys without girlfriends.
However, a response is needed, right? Well, I’d highly recommend that if a girl tells you that she has a boyfriend, you need to play it cool. Act like you weren’t even interested in her. In fact, if you really, really like this girl, you could tell her that you just wanted to hang out with her for a couple hours, not like a date or anything. Then, she’d get to know the real you, and even if it was just a friendly hang-out, your chances could improve.
But in the end, your options are very few, when you get the dreaded ‘I’ve got a boyfriend’ response. Simply keep your chin up and realize that he probably sucks, and you’d be way better, and that she is the one losing out.