Girls Using ‘A Boyfriend’ As An Excuse
eGirlHelp reader Steve has asked the following question:
A common “turn down” girls use is “I have a boyfriend.” How can you tell when it’s true and when it’s just their way of turning you down? What’s the best way to respond to this, and is there any way to safely give them your number in case something happens with the current boyfriend?
This is actually a difficult question. In fact, if a girl tells you that she has a boyfriend, I’m going to tell you right now that your chances of making something happen are about 1%. Think about it - if she DID have a boyfriend but still wanted to see what you were like, would she tell you? Unfortunately, you’ll just have to move on if a girl tells you that she is with someone.
And, the whole phone number thing? Well, you COULD give it to her, but I highly doubt she’d even put it in her phone book. If I were you I’d hold off on giving her the phone number, because it might make you look desperate. And desperate guys are guys without girlfriends.
However, a response is needed, right? Well, I’d highly recommend that if a girl tells you that she has a boyfriend, you need to play it cool. Act like you weren’t even interested in her. In fact, if you really, really like this girl, you could tell her that you just wanted to hang out with her for a couple hours, not like a date or anything. Then, she’d get to know the real you, and even if it was just a friendly hang-out, your chances could improve.
But in the end, your options are very few, when you get the dreaded ‘I’ve got a boyfriend’ response. Simply keep your chin up and realize that he probably sucks, and you’d be way better, and that she is the one losing out.
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Girls are big liars. Girl with husbands fuck other men so why wouldn’t one with a boyfriend? You know how many girls with boyfriends i’ve fucked? Plenty. Any you should too because it’s fucking hilarous!
Dr. Phil is a jerk.
“I have a boyfriend,” is usually BS. I don’t think it’s a wall at all, just a hurdle.
Play your cards right and you’ll find her saying, “No, I don’t really have a boyfriend.”
They do this because, good looking or not, they don’t know you, and you’re just one more person who has no skills and is hitting on them. I.e. wasting their time.
And if they DO have a boyfriend, and you’re “better,” why not show them? Prove it and they may jump ship.
And desperate guys are guys without boyfriends.
what?
I do not agree with this article at ALL. I’ve never looked at a guy giving me his number as desperate. I think it’s nice when I don’t actually have to make the first move, actually. any girl who wants to play these stupid games is a TOOL.
and you wouldn’t want to date her, anyhow.
so just do what feels right. hang out with her if she has a boyfriend, and don’t try to tempt her into being with you- but stick around if you’re really into her.
she might be single after a while.
If a girl tells you she has a boyfriend she is not interested. I don’t know any single girl who uses that as a first excuse. The only time I’ve known a single girl to use that excuse is when a guy is just not getting the hint that she’s not interested.
I agree with Emma. If a single girl is using that as an excuse it’s because she’s tried to hint that she’s not interested and you’ve been too persistent. It’s her last resort, not something she puts up as a ‘hurdle’.
I’ve had to use it once or twice, unfortunately. By the way, when a guy insists on giving me his number after being told this, or asks to ‘hang out anyways’ it actually makes me *less* likely to want to see him should something go wrong with the current boyfriend. It makes the guy seem not just desperate, but like a bit of a creep.
it’s not that she’s not interested necessarily- she’s just not CURRENTLY interested.
you havent done enough to demonstrate to her that you have value sufficient for her to want you.
she also may have been trying to throw you off your game
do you stammer or apologize? or do you KEEP GOING.